For many mothers, publishing their parenting experiences online goes beyond simply creating content; it can help foster communication, build a community, and offer new perspectives.
For Shivangi Sah, who is a full-time UX designer, content creator, mother, and artist, online motherhood has become a way to document daily life and connect with other women, mothers, and creative individuals on their own journeys. She notes that motherhood has taught her unexpected lessons.
Motherhood taught Shivangi that there is no universal guide to parenting. What works for one child or family may not work for another, and that is perfectly normal. She learned to accept only what truly works for her family, leaving the rest behind. According to her, behind every perfect photo is a parent who is also trying to figure things out.
Previously, Shivangi believed that being a good mother meant handling everything on her own. However, motherhood changed this perception. She realized that asking for help from a partner, grandmother, or close friend is not a sign of failure. Accepting support, whether it means taking a break or allowing someone else to temporarily take over duties, has helped Shivangi be more involved in the process. A supported mother presents herself differently.
Social media can create the impression that motherhood is a checklist of perfect routines, meals, milestones, and memories. But Shivangi realized that children do not need perfection. For her, the most significant moments are often ordinary: shared laughter, bedtime routines, or simply being present. She now values emotional involvement over perfect parenting.
Sharing motherhood online has forced Shivangi to carefully consider what she posts. Her child may grow up with their own views on what she wishes to share. Therefore, she understood that not every milestone needs to become content, and difficult moments do not necessarily require an audience. Some memories, in her opinion, are meant only for the two of them.
Becoming a mother does not mean the disappearance of the woman she was before. Shivangi believes that mothers can still have ambitions, friendships, interests, and dreams. She feels that children can benefit from watching how their mothers pursue their interests, grow, and make mistakes. Motherhood and individuality, she says, can coexist.
Shivangi does not claim to have all the answers. Sharing her parenting experience has simply helped her learn to trust herself, enjoy the process, and embrace the imperfect journey.