A person's character is determined not only by their actions but also by what they say and how they behave. Sometimes words spoken in a fit of anger or haste can ruin relationships. Later, a person may regret what was said, but by then the damage has already been done.
Daily Lesson
The poet Rahim deeply contemplated the power of speech and offered a very simple yet profound lesson. He has a famous couplet:
"Rahiman jizhva bavari, kahi gai sarg patol.
apu to kahi bihitar rahi, jiti khat kupal"
In this couplet, Rahim explains that our tongue often utters things without much thought. Although the words go inside the mouth, the negative consequences of those words must be borne by the individual. The essence of this couplet is that before speaking, one must consider the possible outcomes of their words.
Avoid talking when angry
Often, in a state of anger, people say things they would never say in a normal situation. Even if the interlocutor remains silent, these words remain in their mind. Therefore, during an argument, it is better to remain calm for some time instead of responding immediately.
Why is sweet speech necessary?
Speaking softly does not mean agreeing with everything. It means expressing your point of view without insults or harsh remarks. What can be said in a harsh tone might cause conflict, whereas the same thought expressed respectfully will be received more easily.
Words can build and destroy relationships
Building trust in a relationship takes a lot of time, but one wrong word can damage that trust. Whether it concerns family, friendship, or a workplace, the manner of communication is extremely important. Therefore, before speaking, one should think about how our words will affect the listener.
It is not necessary to answer everything
Comparing Rahim's teaching with modern life, one can understand that it is not always necessary to react immediately to every comment. Whether it is an argument on social media or a personal conflict, sometimes it is wiser to remain silent. Before answering, one must ask oneself: is it really worth saying, and can it be expressed better?
Why is Rahim's teaching relevant today?
The characteristic of Rahim's moral couplets is that they explain everyday life situations using simple examples. His couplet reminds us that although the tongue may be small, the impact of its words can be huge. Therefore, a small pause before speaking, a thoughtful response, and maintaining respect for the listener improve not only relationships but also one's own character.