There are people who tend to attribute almost all events in their lives to luck. When they get a job, they might claim it was good fortune; when they receive money, they say fate is helping them. Conversely, if something goes wrong, they immediately declare that their luck is bad. For such people, the concept of fate becomes a huge part of their lives.
According to psychology, a person's belief in fate is shaped not only by their own thoughts. Childhood, family, surrounding environment, and life experience play a significant role here.
Often, children grow up in homes where they constantly hear similar statements, such as that everything is a game of fate, that what is destined will come to them, or that luck is more important than hard work. When a child constantly hears such assertions, the idea that fate is the most important thing in life gradually becomes ingrained in their consciousness. Later, this belief can become part of their habits, and before starting any endeavor, they begin to doubt whether fate will help them.
Trusting fate itself is not an error. The problem arises when a person begins to place the responsibility for their efforts and decisions on fate. For example, if a student gets good grades on an exam, they might say, 'I had good luck.' But if the grades are low, they do not try to figure out exactly where the gap in their studies is; they simply state, 'My luck was bad.' Gradually, this attitude can prevent a person from learning from their mistakes.
If a person is convinced for a long time that everything in their life is predetermined by fate, their self-esteem may decrease. They begin to feel that no matter how hard they try, fate will make the final decision. This is where a weakening of self-confidence can begin. A person may start to fear making decisions and constantly ask others, 'Is this in my fate or not?' In such a situation, instead of working, they may develop a habit of waiting.
Excessive dependence on fate can sometimes be linked to a feeling of insecurity. When a person does not trust their abilities and decisions, they may try to explain themselves through external circumstances. For instance, if they fail to find a job, they might not analyze the errors in their preparation, experience, or interview, but rather say, 'Perhaps this job was not meant for me by fate.' This may provide temporary relief, but it can also delay the understanding of the true cause of the problem.
Belief in fate does not come only from a person's mind; family and environment can also play a large role. If all small and large events in a family are viewed through the prism of fate, children may adopt the same viewpoint. Similarly, the opinions of society and other people influence our thinking. Therefore, one should not mistakenly judge a person solely because they believe in fate. It is important to understand how such a belief was formed. It is also important to realize that not everyone who believes in fate has low self-esteem. Many people work and take responsibility for their decisions, believing in luck, but viewing it as one of several possibilities, rather than a substitute for their efforts.
