The pressure to constantly advance up the career ladder causes many driven women to doubt their growth pace, even if their career is developing steadily. Professional 'FOMO'—the fear of missing opportunities—can turn ambition into a constant feeling of falling behind, stemming from comparing personal progress with the visible achievements of others on social media platforms like LinkedIn.
Lule Bundjaku Karapinar, CEO of GCC Markets and Head of Executive Education at LEORON Institute, notes that career FOMO often manifests as a feeling that one 'should be ahead,' whether it's a higher title, an international position, a board seat, or the next promotion. She emphasizes that ambitious women feel a sense of time limitation, and every decision carries greater weight, especially when career aspirations intersect with family responsibilities and definitions of success.
Karapinar warns that the risk lies in making career decisions dictated by a feeling of being behind rather than by a genuinely suitable opportunity. Rehana Meghani, a clinical and organizational psychologist at Connect Psychology Dubai, believes that the feeling of lagging can become part of ambition itself. According to her, 'targets are constantly shifting because that is inherent to ambition—they generate the next goal before you have even caught your breath after the previous one.'
Meghani explains that social comparison can be beneficial when another person's success inspires setting new goals. However, it becomes detrimental when another person's achievement is interpreted as evidence of personal failure. Social media amplifies this effect because people see a carefully curated version of others' lives. Meghani compares this to 'comparing your complete, messy backstage life with someone else's edited trailer.'
She advises women to ask themselves if they would still be dissatisfied with their career if they didn't look at professional updates from others for a month. If the answer is yes, the problem might be genuine dissatisfaction; if the feeling arises mainly after viewing someone else's promotion or achievement, it might be comparison anxiety, not a signal to change careers.
Karapinar insists that there is no universal age or timeframe for reaching a leadership position. She asserts that 'leadership is not about age or title, and careers develop at very different speeds.' Instead of viewing professional growth as a race, women should focus on developing competencies that will allow them to make a significant impact in senior roles. When they feel colleagues are advancing faster, she recommends drawing inspiration from other fields rather than using them as a measure of their own worth.
Karapinar, who has observed LEORON's growth over the past 17 years, measures progress by asking herself whether she continues to learn, contribute, and move in a direction that matters to her. She notes that some of the most important career breakthroughs remain unnoticed until they become visible, and that 'a title is one milestone. Competence is what allows you to sustain the next ten [years].'
The constant pursuit of achievement also makes ambitious professionals vulnerable to burnout. Meghani points out that many ambitious women have perfectionistic expectations and an internal belief that rest must be earned. Simultaneously, professional duties can overlap with what she calls the 'second shift'—managing the household, caring for children or elderly parents. She says that 'recovery time is consumed by caregiving, not real rest.'
Women in leadership positions also face additional workplace pressure, including the need to constantly demonstrate competence while simultaneously being expected to remain open and collaborative. Karapinar warns that burnout often begins before a person reaches the point where they can no longer work. Signs may include decreased curiosity, disproportionate irritability over small things, difficulty disconnecting, and the feeling that achievements are more obligations than successes. She adds that 'ambitious people are particularly good at suppressing these signals because they can keep working for quite a long time.'
Technology has also blurred the line between responsiveness and productivity. Karapinar notes that constant connectivity creates the impression that dedicated employees must always be available, even though the most valuable work, including thinking, prioritizing, and decision-making, requires uninterrupted time. Meghani advises women to protect their boundaries by setting expectations early on. She gives the example: 'if you reply to emails at 11 PM in the first few months of work, that becomes the baseline expectation.'
She recommends practical steps such as turning off notifications outside of work hours, disabling read receipts, and clearly communicating expected response times. The key, in her opinion, is to view boundary setting as part of ambition, not as a sign of reduced commitment. Meghani states: 'Setting boundaries is a core skill of ambition. It is what allows you to maintain high productivity throughout your career, instead of burning brightly for two years and fading.'
Both experts agree that sustainable ambition requires a broader definition of success. For Karapinar, early career success might be measured by titles, salaries, large teams, or prestigious opportunities. However, over time, the definition may shift toward influence, learning, meaningful relationships, and how worthwhile the work feels. As a working mother, she shares that 'I am always juggling between home life and work. I don't think you ever reach a point where everything is perfectly balanced.' Instead, she focuses on understanding what requires her attention at any given moment, setting priorities, and accepting that these priorities can change.
Meghani argues that sustainable ambition should mean evaluating work based on quality and impact, not on how visibly available one is. She says that this requires employers to change what they reward. If promotions continue to go to employees who are constantly visible online, individual boundary setting will be difficult to maintain. Furthermore, leaders can help by modeling healthier behaviors, including logging off, delaying non-urgent messages, and openly respecting boundaries. Meghani concludes: 'Sustainable ambition is not diminished ambition. It is ambition without the assumption that burnout is the price you must pay for it.'